tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-816185220148975088.post6205847218526286645..comments2023-10-23T12:54:08.396-07:00Comments on My Gay Teen Life-Love, Boys, and More!: My Trip Summary: Day 4-5John Doehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12545560070409713590noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-816185220148975088.post-28019394453600368272010-06-27T09:18:15.234-07:002010-06-27T09:18:15.234-07:00hi.. I used to work next to stateline tow's ya...hi.. I used to work next to stateline tow's yard. i-15 on any wkend is a death rally. im being totally serious! ppl are so ignorant, till somthin real bad happens. at least u got home w/ no problems. smart, or lucky.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-816185220148975088.post-20296505683526849292010-06-23T08:17:31.921-07:002010-06-23T08:17:31.921-07:00you dont want thieves for friends...or lousers..la...you dont want thieves for friends...or lousers..lay down with dogs you get flees...if they got caught shoplifting you could have gone down as a lookoutUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03420624727811558068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-816185220148975088.post-34036814336744096462010-06-18T14:09:35.491-07:002010-06-18T14:09:35.491-07:00Even minor theft is so stupid; especially with you...Even minor theft is so stupid; especially with you present and stolen stuff in your car. Putting you in danger of an adult criminal record. Also it has always pissed me that when you work hard and manage your finances responsibly, other people act as if you were handed money on a platter. 'You're so lucky to have that good job!'; excuse me, I sacrificed and studied hard to be qualified for that job while you were out partying. These girls ultimately turned out to be very shallow people; all you wanted was come consideration and cooperation so you could all have a fun time. It sounds to me like they were using you and the nastiness came out when they were being unreasonable. <br />-To me, as a gay guy, trust and respect is everything. A true friend should be reasonable and never stab you in the back. A friend is someone you confide your feelings to and betrayal hurts deeply. I mean this shit is hard on the nerves; this was a celebration of graduation and they turned it into something for the delete bin. I have always been suspicious of women and their motives; I'm sure there are some good ones out there but man, the bad ones sure are hard on the head. (50% divorce rate!)<br />-So John, settle back at home, lick your wounds, and don't let this sour you on relationships but chalk it up as a learning experience. I'm sure there are some caring and sensitive gay guys out there for you. So this summer, take your time and look around; enjoy your freedom; get some exercise and look after yourself. Meet some new people in college this fall. You are not alone in this; everyone has had friends who turned out not to be. Sometimes loss turns out to be opportunity. bfn - Wayne (big hugs)waynerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05567403191040874531noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-816185220148975088.post-81211180586368915812010-06-18T14:02:17.993-07:002010-06-18T14:02:17.993-07:00The money thing is a big issue.
My family was def...The money thing is a big issue.<br /><br />My family was definitely lower-middle class in East L.A. when I was growing up, but through hard work and some luck, my parents pulled out of it. Still, I had to pay for everything on my own (and do chores or jobs to earn the money), even things like my bus passes for school.<br /><br />At almost 33, I'm financially comfortable: I've worked for a company for 12 years, so I've got a lot of benefits and a really nice salary. Most of my friends aren't, and there's definitely some resentment when, for example, I fly to Hawaii or Cancun for a vacation while they're struggling to pay rent.<br /><br />Like you, they seem to ignore the hours I spend daily at work, the nights and weekends I get phone calls about system crashes or rush projects, the 27 years I've spent programming (yes, I started when I was 5), etc. All they see is "he's got money and I don't", and that causes problems.<br /><br />There's no way around it, and nothing you can do about it. It is, unfortunately, part of an "entitlement" culture or mentality that a lot of people have. Most of my friends, after time, have come to realize how hard I work for what I have and thus are less jealous, but that never entirely goes away.<br /><br />While this was a horrible way to find out how your friends think about you, at least now you know. I would recommend, if you think any of the relationships are worth salvaging (Taylor, maybe?), that you have a one-on-one conversation with the individual and discuss it all - calmly, if possible.<br /><br />If not, well, chalk it up to experience and move on. People change phsyically and psychologically, especially in late teens and early 20's, so it may just be a case of you guys growing apart. Or it might just be a "bad period" and you'll all work it out later.<br /><br />Just keep trying to be the best person you can, regardless of what everyone else thinks. That's all anyone can ask.Austinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15289493499922076048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-816185220148975088.post-90360742235708874012010-06-18T05:14:51.471-07:002010-06-18T05:14:51.471-07:00Well, I won't say that I'm shocked at the ...Well, I won't say that I'm shocked at the way the trip ended, even tho it amazes me that these people did the things that they did... The reason that I've expressed confusion over the fact that you didn't see this coming is this- I know that you said that you were talked into taking Shelby by the others, etc... OK... I get that... What I don't get is how you could not have understood so much about these people in the most fundamental ways- I'm calling them 'people' because they really aren't and apparently never were, your friends... They resent you on so many levels; they don't have even a miniscule amount of feeling for you or your safety, except MAYBE Taylor, and, that's self- serving at it's best!!<br /><br />For the life of me, I can't understand how you didn't see enough of this earlier to NEVER have scheduled this trip, in the 1st place... These are some of the worst examples of friends that I have seen in a long time!! There are fundamental flaws in all of them that are just.... well, inexcusable and unforgivable... I would drop them like my life depended on it, because it does!!<br /><br /> Why they care so little for you, is irrelevant on some level, but, you might want to assess, at some point, how you allowed these kinds of people into your life... You have learned some valuable lessons about human behavior, but, it will be wasted if you meet new people, and aren't more selective about those that get through your initial 'screening'... I sense that you settled for friends before, that were non- judgmental about your sexuality, and probably forgave what you considered some small defects, just so that you wouldn't feel lonely... If that's the case, I understand... But, now, you see the danger in that strategy- these people are ugly on so many other levels, to the point where they really were dangerous to your well being....<br /> There are much nicer, and better friends out there, John, waiting to meet you... I am SO glad that you are heading off to college!! Leave these losers in your dust, and don't look back, except to learn from it, and, with time, to laugh at it!! I hope that you don't consider this mean or that you feel that I'm 'piling on' to the misery that you feel.... I don't mean to- I'm just being honest and hoping that you get the kinds of friends that you really deserve!! luv, tman<3hugs2!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-816185220148975088.post-86230240942427115982010-06-18T03:00:31.966-07:002010-06-18T03:00:31.966-07:00Man, that was a shocker reading about them stealin...Man, that was a shocker reading about them stealing stuff. I didn’t think normal people did things like that. That is so wrong!<br /><br />It sure is wonderful that you can talk to your Dad about all these things that were happening and get his advice on what to do. And good also that you listen to him and take his advice. And your Mom too. It is so good that you have such nice and understanding parents.<br /><br />Jeez, you really scared me when you talked about driving home so fast. So many young people get killed doing things like that, especially without adequate rest beforehand.<br /><br />This was really a bad experience. I’m sorry you had to go through this. You had such good plans and intentions for the trip. I don’t know what you could have done differently except to choose better friends.<br /><br /> I guess all you can do now is learn from all of this. I hope you will find some new friends soon. I wouldn’t have anything to do with these three anymore if it was me. I could never forgive them for all that happened. I would just write them off. I wouldn’t even text or talk to them again.<br /><br />In amongst all the bad experiences, it sounds like you did have some fun times at all the places you went. I hope with some time that the bad parts will fade out in your memory and you can remember the good times more.<br /><br />I hope the rest of your summer goes well. It sure hasn’t gotten off to a very good start.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com